According to Sternberg’s Theory of Love, there are three components of interpersonal relationships: Intimacy, Passion and Commitment, which combine to form seven types of love. Where is your relationship at?
How long have you known each other?
Less Than 6 Months
Less Than One Year
More Than One Year
More Than Five Years
More Than A Decade
What do you have most in common?
We like the same TV shows.
We like the same sports.
We like the same music.
We like the same activities.
We like the same people.
Reverse that. What do you have least in common?
We like different TV shows.
We like different sports
We like different music.
We like different activities.
We like different people.
How do you communicate?
Frequently - We're always talking.
With Body Language
With Weekly Meetings or Date Night
Clearly and Honestly
With Our Eyes
What are you more likely to argue about?
How will you make up after that argument?
Accept an Apology
Act Over It
When was the last time you said, 'I love you'?
We aren't there yet.
It's been a while.
A few minutes ago.
When you look into each other's eyes, what do you feel?
What trait are you most aware of when you are together?
Sense of Humor
What do you think of more when you're apart?
Whatever I'm doing.
Whatever they're doing.
Whatever is on TV
Wherever we're going.
Whenever we'll get there.
Your relationship is in the Friendship or Liking stage. This means that you share Intimacy, but lack Passion and Commitment. You like each other, you feel close and you enjoy each other's company. You are like best friends with crushes. With a spark of Passion and the desire to Commit, this could be the real deal.
Your relationship is based on Companionate Love. This means that you have Intimacy and Commitment, but you lack Passion. You are best friends who need each other for emotional and physical support, and you plan to remain that way, trying to make things work. All you need is a spark of Passion to achieve Lasting Love.
Your relationship is Romantic Love. This means that you have Intimacy and Passion, but you lack Commitment. You are very close, connected and inspired by each other. You have fallen in love, but have not committed, yet. This is the type of love that is most likely to evolve into successful Lasting Love when you're ready to commit.
Your relationship is in the Infatuation stage. This means that you feel a great deal of Passion, but are lacking in Intimacy and Commitment. You are caught up in a whirlwind of feelings for each other and probably feel a little light headed. Many infatuations are short-lived, though others will grow in Intimacy to become Romantic and Lasting Love.
Your relationship is a Lasting Love or Consummate Love. You have all three of the major factors needed for a successful loving relationship: Intimacy, Passion and Commitment. You inspire each other, enjoy life together, and feel connected on the deepest level. You have found a love that can last throughout the ages.